Most people are surprised when I tell them, but I used to feel invisible in certain rooms.I'd walk into social gatherings, networking events, even events I was booked to entertain, and instantly feel a shift. People would glance, then go back to their conversations. I’d speak up, only to be interrupted. I’d share an idea — no one reacted. Then someone else would say something similar and get a round of nods.That sinking feeling of “Why am I not being taken seriously?” was real.The truth is, gaining respect isn’t about having the loudest voice or the longest CV. It’s not about dominating the conversation or being the smartest person in the room.It’s about small behaviours that signal — without saying a word — “I know who I am, and I’m worth listening to.”In this blog, I’m going to walk you through five shifts I made that changed how I was perceived …. fast. If you’re ready to feel more respected, more heard, and more confident in any room, this is for you.<h2 id="ed834024-4a4d-494d-8577-1b04b783ec66" data-toc-id="ed834024-4a4d-494d-8577-1b04b783ec66">Why Respect Matters (And Why You Might Be Losing It Without Realising)</h2>Let’s be honest — being overlooked doesn’t feel good.Whether you’re pitching a client, presenting to your team, or walking into a room full of strangers, we all want to feel like our presence counts.But too often, we fall into subtle habits that tell the world otherwise. We hesitate. We blend in. We overthink. And just like that, we fade into the background.Respect isn’t something you demand. It’s something you signal. And it starts the second you walk into a room.Let’s break down five powerful, practical strategies for how to gain respect — starting today.<div data-youtube-video=""><iframe width="640" height="480" allowfullscreen="true" autoplay="false" disablekbcontrols="false" enableiframeapi="false" endtime="0" ivloadpolicy="0" loop="false" modestbranding="false" origin="" playlist="" progressbarcolor="white" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/ljbjftsnNfk" start="0"></iframe></div><h1 id="4c6562fc-6e13-45d1-b0b3-973919d35f1c" data-toc-id="4c6562fc-6e13-45d1-b0b3-973919d35f1c">1. Finish Your Sentence — Even When They Interrupt</h1>Ever been halfway through a point and someone cuts you off?You pause. Let them speak. Try to stay polite.But here’s the thing — every time you do that, you send a silent message: “What I was saying wasn’t that important.”This isn’t about being rude or pushing back aggressively. It’s about calmly, assertively finishing your thought.People notice. It subtly shifts how they see you — not as someone who fades, but someone who owns their space.Try this: Next time you’re interrupted, pause for a beat, then continue speaking. No apology. No fluster. Just confidence.<h1 id="1d58ec8a-2117-47da-84fe-fe433b5084f7" data-toc-id="1d58ec8a-2117-47da-84fe-fe433b5084f7">2. Dress with Intention (Not Just Style)</h1>We all know first impressions matter — but here’s the part that’s often missed: your appearance speaks before you do.Too many people dress to blend in. Out of fear of standing out or being judged, they play it safe. But when you dress like everyone else, you risk being treated like everyone else.I’m not talking about expensive suits, chasing trends or wearing something super wacky to stand out. I’m talking about intentional choices that match the moment and make you feel composed and credible.The right outfit doesn’t just change how people see you — it changes how you carry yourself. And confidence is magnetic.<h1 id="b997a9d6-1fe1-46e2-81a6-c4d5d131712b" data-toc-id="b997a9d6-1fe1-46e2-81a6-c4d5d131712b">3. Use Appropriate Touch to Build Instant Connection</h1>This one’s rarely talked about — but incredibly powerful.In professional settings, touch is usually limited to handshakes. But a brief, intentional touch — like a hand on the shoulder or a quick pat on the arm — can build rapport faster than words.I’ve done this on stage, bringing people up in front of hundreds. That gentle touch? It instantly calms their nerves and builds trust.Of course, this only works when it’s appropriate and respectful. Context matters. But used wisely, it says: “You’re seen. You’re supported.” And that builds respect.<h1 id="de512426-a4b3-4ea7-8e5d-25e9dbc16f9e" data-toc-id="de512426-a4b3-4ea7-8e5d-25e9dbc16f9e">4. Own Your Flaws — Loud and Clear</h1>Many people think they need to hide their mistakes to earn respect. But the opposite is true.People respect honesty and self-awareness more than perfection.When you share what went wrong and what you learned, you show confidence, maturity, and a willingness to grow.Think about it: who do you respect more, someone who hides behind excuses, or someone who says, “Here’s what happened. Here’s what I’d do differently next time.”Vulnerability done well is a strength, not a weakness.<h1 id="d0bdbb86-eedd-49ac-996a-df96d5a68870" data-toc-id="d0bdbb86-eedd-49ac-996a-df96d5a68870">5. Compliment Others (Even When It Stings a Bit)</h1>This might surprise you, but one of the quickest ways to earn respect… is to give it.And not just to people you admire. I’m talking about peers, competitors, colleagues, anyone doing something impressive.Too often, we downplay others’ success in an attempt to hold onto our own. But when you praise someone else’s win, you’re showing security, confidence, and leadership.Plus, you become someone people want to be around, someone who lifts others, not someone who plays the comparison game.Pro tip: The next time someone around you shines, be the first to acknowledge it. You’ll stand out — in all the right ways.<h1 id="577038a5-5905-461c-b3dd-b9fec50756ac" data-toc-id="577038a5-5905-461c-b3dd-b9fec50756ac">🔓 Want to Start Conversations That Actually Connect?</h1>We’ve talked about how to gain respect. But what if your challenge is at square one — starting the conversation in the first place?That’s where my Break The Ice formula comes in.In this free 15-minute training, I walk you through the exact 3-step process I use (and now teach clients) to start conversations with confidence, clarity, and ease — in any setting.Whether it’s business networking, team meetings, or chatting with someone new at a social event… this works.✅ No awkward silences ✅ No forced small talk ✅ Just real, confident connection🔗<a target="_blank" href="https://bit.ly/4dTZZaz"> Click here to get instant access</a><h1 id="e98e48de-fac5-4800-a786-708aedcd45da" data-toc-id="e98e48de-fac5-4800-a786-708aedcd45da">Final Thoughts: Gaining Respect Is Simpler Than You Think</h1>Here’s what I want you to remember:You don’t have to wait years to be respected.You don’t need to shout, show off, or constantly prove yourself.You just need to show up differently — with presence, intention, and self-awareness.These small, quiet changes add up. And before you know it, the room stops, listens, and leans in when you speak.That’s respect. Earned, not demanded.<h1 id="15236217-a81a-445d-bed0-99e8b9958447" data-toc-id="15236217-a81a-445d-bed0-99e8b9958447">Stay Connected + Learn More</h1>If this article resonated with you, I share more tips and behind-the-scenes insights on these platforms:🔹 Instagram:<a target="_blank" href="https://instagram.com/anthonylayespeaks"> @anthonylayespeaks </a> 🔹 YouTube:<a target="_blank" href="https://youtube.com/@anthonylaye"> @anthonylaye </a> 🔹 Website:<a target="_blank" href="https://anthonylaye.com"> </a><a target="_blank" href="http://anthonylaye.com">anthonylaye.com</a><h1 id="ba957206-e4e9-430a-a51b-3e952bbf516b" data-toc-id="ba957206-e4e9-430a-a51b-3e952bbf516b">🎤 Book Me for Your Next Event or Team Workshop</h1>For businesses looking to help their teams communicate more confidently, or for event organisers wanting a keynote speaker who leaves audiences energised, I’m here to help.As a keynote speaker and thought engineer, I work with leaders, professionals, and entrepreneurs to improve mindset, build real confidence, and create stronger communication — without corporate fluff.📩 Want to chat about working together? Get in touch via<a target="_blank" href="https://anthonylaye.com"> </a><a target="_blank" href="http://anthonylaye.com">anthonylaye.com</a>.And if you’re looking to take your personal or professional growth to the next level, I also run a mastermind programme designed to help ambitious individuals live a life less ordinary. You can find out more details and next start date here: <a target="_blank" href="https://www.anthonylaye.com/mind-academy/">https://www.anthonylaye.com/mind-academy/</a>It’s time to stop playing small and start showing up.Anthony Laye Keynote Speaker | Communication Coach | Mindset Mentor Helping professionals break through fear, speak with confidence, and live a life less ordinary.

Whether you’re pitching a client, presenting to your team, or walking into a room full of strangers, we all want to feel like our presence counts.

How to Gain Respect: 5 Surprisingly Simple Shifts That Make a Big Impact

Why Respect Matters (And Why You Might Be Losing It Without Realising)

1. Finish Your Sentence — Even When They Interrupt

3. Use Appropriate Touch to Build Instant Connection

5. Compliment Others (Even When It Stings a Bit)

🔓 Want to Start Conversations That Actually Connect?

Final Thoughts: Gaining Respect Is Simpler Than You Think

🎤 Book Me for Your Next Event or Team Workshop

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How to Gain Respect: 5 Surprisingly Simple Shifts That Make a Big Impact

How to Gain Respect: 5 Surprisingly Simple Shifts That Make a Big Impact

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